“IN THIS LIFE; YOU ARE EITHER A PASSENGER OR A PILOT. IT IS
YOUR CHOICE.”
Yesterday, when I was drinking my coffee, some thoughts came
into my mind. I wondered why in some situations I don’t have this feeling that
I am an adult and can do it all by myself.
I see that some people who are way younger than me can do some much more
by themselves and never ask help from their parents or anyone else. But me on
the other hand, I don’t do much on my own. I am twenty years old, some people
get married by this age and some, live alone by this age.
It brought me back to the Egyptian society. If you don’t know
this by now, I am Egyptian. Here in Egypt, a women can never live on her own,
it would be in rare occasions where you would find a woman living alone, maybe
men, but not women. This is due to long list of factors. It might be the
economic condition in Egypt, we don’t really have this high standard of living
in Egypt, so not all women can offered to live on her own. But those who can
offered it, like me, also don’t, so why is this?
Well, here come why I started this blog. The Egyptian society.
The Egyptian society is known by its strict rules and the judgments. I had this
opportunity of living alone this year, because of my college, but here is what
my mom said to me, and I quote “You would have a bad reputation.” Let me tell
you that in Egypt, we can’t have a sexual relation before marriage and any girl
living on her own, might have some kind of relationship and some men might come
to visit her and thus, all of your neighbors would say that you are a bad,
nasty, and excuse my language, slut. That was mom.
My dad on the other
hand added “You wouldn’t know how to buy food for yourself, deal with the car
yourself and…..” You can see where he is going. I know that parents never see
that their children have grown and they always keep treating them like they are
babies, but is this the reason why sometimes I feel that I can’t work on my
own. That I can’t live by my own.
The thing is that as any daughter I want to be free,
independent and able to do things by myself, but how would I do it, if my
parents are not giving me the chance to do it? How would I learn from my
mistakes, if they weren’t mine, but theirs? How would I deal, if something
happened to them and I am not trained to be independent? How would I be a
mother, if I can’t even be me?
And now, I am passing this question to you. Not growing up?
Is it our fault or our parents?
I would really love to know what you think of this post in
the comments down below. Till next time, bye. .
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DeleteI think its on both parts to be honest!
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DeleteI enjoyed reading this post. I think it's a combo of parents and ourselves as young adults that causes it. Parents may be too afraid to let go and we may doubt ourselves. But being independent is important and is worth working towards because it gives freedom and true adulthood.
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I think you are totally correct.
DeleteUnfortunately Arab societies are so closed minded especially when it comes to us women (I'm Lebanese so I 'm speaking of experience). Although there are many restriction you can find your voice and freedom in your work, hobbies and passions. You can step out of your comfort zone in many areas to help you grow as a human being. Take more responsibilities even if you feel you can't handle them...
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I know, but sometimes it just drives me crazy.
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DeleteI think I am starting to see your point of view. It is indeed on both parts.
ReplyDeleteI remember being in thi exact state a while back so I get you.
ReplyDeleteI think it's a combination of both. you have to show your parents that you are responsible enough and they have to give you a lil room to make your choices and grow. Parents care and worry about their kids and can sometimes be over protective. In my case I tried having a conversation with them. it didn't really work lol. So i had to show them, and it wasn't easy because I sometimes had to go against their rules. Because I had the conversation with then before they understood that I wasn't just rebelling but was trying to become more independent and grow. I'm not saying disobey but I mean you have to show them that you are not a kid anymore. It's not easy believe me I still have to deal with that sometimes lol.
Good luck dear :)
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I think doing this goes against every cell in my body. I find it so hard to do something against my parents wishes, sometimes because deep down I trust them more than I trust myself and sometimes because I don't want them to be mad.
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