“I HAD TO GO
THROUGH TIMES OF ISOLATION TO COME WITH TERMS WITH WHO I WAS AND WHAT I WAS.”
I have never been one
of the people that stay alone. I have always been surrounded by people. Always
been like this that I think I am afraid to face what it would be like if they
were taken from me and that I had to live in isolation for some time. But
recently I have started thinking about some things. Things like who I am and
what I want. I found myself incapable of
answering myself. I don’t think about myself or by myself. There is always
someone with me driving me to do something or think like what I think people
would like. Not people as people, but those who are close to me and this drove
me nuts. I mean, I am twenty years old, in a couple of month I would be responsible
adult by law and I don’t know who I am, that is not acceptable.
I have decided last
week that I will stay alone for the week. That I won’t talk to any of my
friends and I won’t tell them a second by second story of what happens in the day.
Yes, it was boring at first, but it made me realize what is important and what
is not. It made me realize that being alone is not bad, being alone has its
benefits.
The first benefit
that comes out of being alone is that it makes you realize that being alone is
not the same as being lonely and that you might have been lonely while you were
surrounded by the so called friends of yours. It also made me realize that not
having friends is not the end of the world as long as you have got family up
your sleeves, these are the people that matters the most and would love you the
most as it is said, family is bound by blood no matter what and you can never
escape blood.
Secondly is that not
all of your friends are worth your time. If you have ever heard of minimalism
lifestyle, you would know that you should only keep things that would bring
benefit to you and the same goes with relationships. I found that most of my
friendship and relationships don’t bring me any benefit except it helps time
pass. The same time that I should do something with it to bring me benefit. It
just helped me see who I should keep my ties with and who should I cut ties with.
Unfortunately, it happened to be a lot of people that I should cut out of my
life.
Third most
importantly. When you are alone, it is just you and your thoughts. You know
that you are thinking by yourself and not by someone else. I know that
relationship might add to your experience in life, but it also put thoughts
that aren’t yours in your mind or it might force you to do things you wouldn’t
normally do. So you would explore yourself, your ideas, your dreams, your
talents. I never even knew mine till now, but I need some more time.
Fourthly, by being
alone, you develop some immune system toward the end of relationships; friends
or lovers. You would know that you could live without them just fine. You
wouldn’t be kept in a bad relationship or with bad people because you are
afraid of being alone. You would know that you would be just fine by yourself
or maybe better than how you are now.
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this post in the comments down below. Till next time, bye. .
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